Intentional Love: Revisiting Love Languages in Every Season of Marriage
Valentine’s Day has a way of making love feel loud. Big gestures. Big plans. Big expectations. But real marriage? It is not loud most days. It is steady. It is layered. It changes. When we first learn about love languages, it can feel like a breakthrough. Suddenly you realize, Oh… this is why he doesn’t feel appreciated. Or This is why I still feel unseen even though he’s trying. And that awareness is powerful. But here is what I have learned after more than twenty years of marriage: love languages are not a one-time discovery. They are something you revisit. Because people change. Seasons change. Stress changes us. Responsibilities stretch us. Even the way we receive love can shift as we grow. The way I needed to feel loved in our early years is not the same as what fills my heart now. And the same is true for him. Intentional love means we do not assume. We pay attention. We adjust. We choose each other again and again. Valentine’s Day is sweet. But intentional...
