Love Languages & Valentine’s Day: Celebrating in a Way That Speaks to Your Spouse

Valentine’s Day is often filled with expectations, but the most meaningful celebrations happen when we love our spouse in the way they receive love best. Dr. Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch offer a great guide for making this day intentional. Doesn't it make sense to celebrate a day dedicated to love by acknowledging your spouse's love language(s). Let's take a dive into each love language and how it can be displayed on this special day. 

Words of Affirmation

If your spouse thrives on kind words, take time to express heartfelt appreciation. Write a love letter, create a list of reasons you love them, or verbally affirm how much they mean to you. A sincere, spoken "I love you, I appreciate you," or a thoughtful text can go a long way.

Acts of Service

For those who feel loved through actions, plan a Valentine’s Day centered on helping them. Cook their favorite meal, take on a task they normally do, or surprise them by handling something stressful. Thoughtful acts show love in a deep and meaningful way.

Receiving Gifts

If your spouse values gifts, (like me) this doesn’t mean extravagance. It means thoughtfulness. I live for finding something meaningful, personal, such as a book they’ve wanted, a framed photo of a special memory, or something handmade. This will always speak volumes. One year my husband gave me a customized Lovebook, gifts like these can really deepen the connection.

Quality Time

For those who crave undivided attention, the best gift is your presence. Plan a distraction-free evening together, take a walk, play a game, or enjoy a deep conversation. The key is intentionality, giving your spouse your full focus.

Physical Touch

If your spouse feels love through touch, simple gestures like holding hands, hugging, or a nice massage. can make their Valentine’s Day special. Plan a cozy evening in, sit close together, and be intentional about showing affection.

No matter your spouse’s love language, the best way to celebrate Valentine’s Day is with intentionality, love, and a heart that seeks to serve and honor them. How do you plan to celebrate your spouse in a way that speaks their love language?